Hi ladies. I am just reaching out, because I am having such a hard time with the way I look as I am gaining weight with this baby. I am currently at 24 weeks and I got on the scale this morning and I am right at 20 pounds. I feel like that is too much with 16 weeks left to go.
My husband and I were at a wedding last night, and I honestly felt cute when we headed out, but as we took pictures throughout the night, I got more and more upset, because my face it so very round, compared to how it normally is. I KNOW I should be gaining weight, I know I am being ridiculous... but I also think that 20 is too much for this stage in my pregnancy, and it makes me cry.
Re: distraught about weight gain :(
But also? You're pregnant. You'll gain weight. There's an average amount to gain but that doesn't mean those who gain more gain "too much", they just gained more than average, which was likely what their body and their baby NEEDED.
Your face shape and body shape will change. I'm SURE you looked cute last night. Please ignore the scale and put it away if it upsets you. Weight tells you very little about health. I've dropped two dress sizes in the past without losing a pound... Weight is not an indicator of health and not something you should worry about.
Sorry to sound callous, but what do you expect? You're creating an entire human being and that comes with a lot of stuff. Of course you'll gain weight. Just enjoy the fact that this is the one time you can gain up to 35lbs in a few months and nobody can give you a hard time because of it!
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09/23/11 - Married DH
04/01/13 - BFP at 4wks
05/30/13 - MMC - BO @ 12wks 5d
08/29/13 - BFP @ 4wks 4d
09/17/13 - 7wks 2d - Normal HB Detected! Baby measuring perfect for dates and positioning!
10/23/13 - 12wks 3d - Perfect NT scan! HB 167 & baby wriggling, waving & yawning!
12/17/13 - 20wks 2 d - We're having a beautiful baby girl! Go Team Pink!
05/03/14 - Bobbie Gloria was born at 39+6 weighing 6lb 14oz!
But if you started at a different point, that may be a different number for you, and that is OKAY. Just remember this is a temporary situation, and at the end you get a great result.
The more important numbers to know are your BP and fasting blood sugars (from OGTT) since those convey more risk to the baby.
However, I do agree with the PP who suggested a whole grain, plant based diet. That is good for mommy and baby. I always tell my patients to fill 1/2 their plates with veggies, try to eat vegetarian 2 meals/day, more than 5 ingredients (not made at home of course) is too processed, and to avoid ingredients you can't pronounce :-). For the most part, that is good nutrition!!
Stay healthy and positive.
i gained 40 throughout my whole pregnancy! i am now 11 weeks pp and have lost over 30lbs and am feeling great. i still have quite a bit of belly flab, but everything else is pretty much back to normal. and i haven't even gotten back to working out yet.
Also to share from my own experience, my weight gain wasn't steady throughout either pregnancy. Some months I just seemed to gain a lot and other months not much at all.
And if you're not already, walking or light exercise will make you and your body feel better
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My point was that she seems pre-occupied with the thought of being "obese" and that comes across as vain. Is she doing this for her baby or so she doesn't get "fat"? It is a bit stupid of her to suggest she knows better than the medical professionals.
09/23/11 - Married DH
04/01/13 - BFP at 4wks
05/30/13 - MMC - BO @ 12wks 5d
08/29/13 - BFP @ 4wks 4d
09/17/13 - 7wks 2d - Normal HB Detected! Baby measuring perfect for dates and positioning!
10/23/13 - 12wks 3d - Perfect NT scan! HB 167 & baby wriggling, waving & yawning!
12/17/13 - 20wks 2 d - We're having a beautiful baby girl! Go Team Pink!
05/03/14 - Bobbie Gloria was born at 39+6 weighing 6lb 14oz!
Gaining weight is a natural part of being pregnant. I don't think your weight gain is more than average. Don't freak.
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I would agree with you, pandadair - sounds like a healthy diet to me - cutting out the stuff that adds little/no nutritional value for the baby. Not sure I quite understand the minor backlash on her comments.
Being concerned about your weight gain and focusing on a healthy baby are not mutually exclusive. I would argue that awareness of and a focus on a healthy lifestyle (nutrition, exercise, stress etc.) helps to contribute to a healthy baby and is part of our role as 'incubators' (ha! meant tongue in cheek - and an ode to my MIL) for our 'little lemons/oranges etc..